There are no Winners only Losers in a Divorce

When people get a divorce, people who are observers of the parties involved want to know whether they won or lost the divorce. A divorce is a loss no matter what the financial outcome. The parties marriage has ended and therefore both the husband and wife have lost due to getting a divorce.

In most divorce cases, the parties’ financial situation is harmed, because the cohesive unit has been destroyed. The parties can no longer combine their financial an emotional resource to work together as a family. Children compound the problem because when the parents are no longer capable of pooling their resources to say pay a mortgage or pay bills in general, there is now a need to buy to different dwellings and pay additional expenses.

Many times the outcome results in a Foreclosure or the loss or the sale of the Marital Residence. Additionally, there is always harm to the children, who are placed in the position of having to often take sides in their parent’s battle. The children also blame themselves for what has happened, and feel in some way responsible for the problems between their parents.

People who proceed to get a divorce should focus their attention on not just the short term fight between themselves but also the long term financial harm that will be caused by their actions as well as the harm that this decision will have on their children.

Sometimes, divorce is necessary and must occur, but people should not commence the process of divorce by trying to win or lose their divorce. By getting a divorce they have already lost their family.